You’re hurting

Anguish

  • Shock and incredulity
  • Grief and powerlessness

Hope

  • Is not an emotion; it is a cognitive process
  • Function of struggle and discomfort
  • How to practice hope
    • Set realistic goals
    • Figure out how to achieve and find alternative paths with setbacks
    • Agency (believe in self)

Prepare the child for the path, not the path for the child.

  • Developing resilience to cultivate a hope practice
    • Personalization: Remember to think about the larger issues and context; don’t get caught up with self-blame and criticism
    • Permanence: Practice thinking about the temporary nature of most setbacks as part of how we look at adversity on a daily basis; Ask yourself, “Will this be a big issue five minutes, hours, days, years from now?”\
    • Pervasiveness: Find the areas of your life that are still good so you don’t fall into the trap believing that whatever you’re up against stained every single thing in your life

Hopelessness

  • Strong emotion of when,
    • You do not know what you want
    • You cannot figure out how to achieve your goals
    • You do not believe in yourself
  • Best to combat by practicing hope and avoid leading to suicidal tendencies

Despair

  • Hopelessness about entire life and future
  • You feel like tomorrow will be just like today

Sadness

  • Sadness is important in your life and should be felt
  • It can lead to being more motivated, sensitive to social norms, and being generous
  • Sadness is not depression or grief
  • Linked to feeling moved, being connected and to be human (e.g., a sad movie can make you feel moved and creates enjoyment)

Grief

  • Occurs when there is a loss, longing, or feeling lost
    • When challenged by a loss in your life, you will reaffirm or reconstruct a world of meaning
  • Different types of grief
    • Acute
    • Integrated (adaptation)
    • Complicated
    • Disenfranchised