Category: Emotional Fluidity

You search for connection

True belonging doesn’t require us to change who we are; it requires us to be who we are. Belonging Verse Fitting In Belonging Fitting In Authentic Other pleasing Being accepted for you Being accepted for being like everyone else Being somewhere you want to be and they want you Being somewhere you want to be,… Continue reading You search for connection

You’re with others

Compassion Empathy The most effective approach to meaningful connection combines compassion with cognitive empathy. Sympathy Comparative suffering

You’re hurting

Anguish Hope Prepare the child for the path, not the path for the child. Hopelessness Despair Sadness Grief

You fall short

Shame How to build shame resilience Recognize shame and understand its triggers Recognize when you’re in the grip of shame, name it, feel your way through it, and figure out what messages and expectations triggered the shame. Don’t pretend it’s not happening and get swept away. Practice critical awareness Reality-check the messages and expectations that… Continue reading You fall short

You compare

Comparison Admiration Reverence Envy Resentment Jealousy Shadenfreude Freudenfreude

Things aren’t what they seem

When two feelings are in tension with one another, admitting to the uncertainty leads to greater credibility and grounded confidence. Cognitive Dissonance Amusement Bittersweet Nostalgia Nostalgia is a yearning for the way things used to be in our often idealized and self-protective version of the past. Paradox Irony Are you doing something up in humor… Continue reading Things aren’t what they seem

Things don’t go as planned

Boredom Disappointment Regret The idea of ‘no regrets’ doesn’t mean living with courage, it means living without reflection. To live without regret is to believe we have nothing to learn, no amends to make, and no opportunity to be braver with our lives. Discouraged There are too many people in the world today who decide… Continue reading Things don’t go as planned

You self-assess

Pride Hubris Humility Humility allows us to admit when we are wrong — we realize that getting it right is more important than needing to ‘prove’ that we are right. Intellectual Humility