Category: Emotional Fluidity

True belonging doesn’t require us to change who we are; it requires us to be who we are. Belonging Verse Fitting In BelongingFitting InAuthenticOther pleasingBeing accepted for youBeing accepted for being like everyone elseBeing somewhere you want to be and they want youBeing somewhere you want to be, but they don’t care Because your self-esteem…… Continue reading You search for connection

Compassion The daily practice of recognizing and accepting our shared humanity so that we treat ourselves and other with loving-kindness, and we take action in the face of suffering Pity is the near enemy and distancing or cruelty the far enemy Empathy Cognitive empathy: perspective taking or mentalizing Affective empathy: experience sharing, emotional attunement with…… Continue reading You’re with others

Anguish Shock and incredulity Grief and powerlessness Hope Is not an emotion; it is a cognitive process Function of struggle and discomfort How to practice hope Set realistic goals Figure out how to achieve and find alternative paths with setbacks Agency (believe in self) Prepare the child for the path, not the path for the…… Continue reading You’re hurting

Love Lovelessness Heartbroken Flooding Hurt Trust Betrayal The most devastating organizational betrayal is cover-ups Occurs when it is more important to protect that reputation of that system (i.e. corporation, nonprofit, university, government, church, sports program, school, or family) and those in power than it is to protect the basic human dignity of individuals and communities…… Continue reading Your heart is open

Shame Intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that you are flawed and therefore unworthy of love, belonging, and connection Shame thrives in silence, secrecy, judgment. The antidote is empathy and believing you are not alone Self-compassion helps, consists of self-kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness Shame is the root of unethical behaviours in culture How…… Continue reading You fall short

Comparison Comparison is not an emotion, however it drives your feelings, affects relations, and your self-worth You try to simultaneous fit in and stand out You are often unaware of social comparison Social comparison can happen both up and downward, usually leading to fear, anger, shame, and or sadness Comparing is often a creativity killer…… Continue reading You compare

When two feelings are in tension with one another, admitting to the uncertainty leads to greater credibility and grounded confidence. Cognitive Dissonance When you hold two cognitions (such as ideas, attitude, beliefs, or opinions) that are psychologically inconsistent with each other (e.g. cult followers when proven wrong or smokers) Choose courage and being curious over…… Continue reading Things aren’t what they seem