Comparison
- Comparison is not an emotion, however it drives your feelings, affects relations, and your self-worth
- You try to simultaneous fit in and stand out
- You are often unaware of social comparison
- Social comparison can happen both up and downward, usually leading to fear, anger, shame, and or sadness
- Comparing is often a creativity killer
- Comparison is inevitable, it happens to all of us. How you respond to comparison is your choice
- Choose connection over comparison
- You can also choose to “focus on your lane”
Admiration
- Social comparison that inspires you to be a better version of yourself
Reverence
- Is a subcategory of admiration
- Reverence leads you to form a connection and a desire to move closer to the object of reverence
- Usually leads to adoration, worship and veneration
- Irreverent, is not having respect for what is official, important, or holy
Envy
- When you want what the other person has
Resentment
- Resentment is “hidden envy”
Jealousy
- Usually involves a third party, that threatens the connection you have with another person, not necessarily what they possess
Shadenfreude
- Sha-din-froy-da, “meaning “harm joy”
- Feeling joy from the suffering of others, usually stems from fear (e.g. Covid vaccine and anti-vaccine narrative)
- Connected to envy, hostile and destructive emotion
Freudenfreude
- Shared joy in the success of others
- Shoy (active interest in asking personal questions) and bragitude (expressing gratitude toward someone for sharing good news) cultivate freudenfreude leading to more meanginful connection