Or else they will rot and you will throw it away. I have recently been on a journey of seeking enjoyment. Ironically, my mantra is enjoy the process. However, I’m not sure if I had fully understood how to enjoy the process. In the beginning, enjoyment was a mentality, which is certainly a big factor.…… Continue reading Life is like a box of fruits. Enjoy them promptly in each season.
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You search for connection
True belonging doesn’t require us to change who we are; it requires us to be who we are. Belonging Verse Fitting In BelongingFitting InAuthenticOther pleasingBeing accepted for youBeing accepted for being like everyone elseBeing somewhere you want to be and they want youBeing somewhere you want to be, but they don’t care Because your self-esteem…… Continue reading You search for connection
You’re with others
Compassion The daily practice of recognizing and accepting our shared humanity so that we treat ourselves and other with loving-kindness, and we take action in the face of suffering Pity is the near enemy and distancing or cruelty the far enemy Empathy Cognitive empathy: perspective taking or mentalizing Affective empathy: experience sharing, emotional attunement with…… Continue reading You’re with others
You’re hurting
Anguish Shock and incredulity Grief and powerlessness Hope Is not an emotion; it is a cognitive process Function of struggle and discomfort How to practice hope Set realistic goals Figure out how to achieve and find alternative paths with setbacks Agency (believe in self) Prepare the child for the path, not the path for the…… Continue reading You’re hurting
Your heart is open
Love Lovelessness Heartbroken Flooding Hurt Trust Betrayal The most devastating organizational betrayal is cover-ups Occurs when it is more important to protect that reputation of that system (i.e. corporation, nonprofit, university, government, church, sports program, school, or family) and those in power than it is to protect the basic human dignity of individuals and communities…… Continue reading Your heart is open
You fall short
Shame Intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that you are flawed and therefore unworthy of love, belonging, and connection Shame thrives in silence, secrecy, judgment. The antidote is empathy and believing you are not alone Self-compassion helps, consists of self-kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness Shame is the root of unethical behaviours in culture How…… Continue reading You fall short
You compare
Comparison Comparison is not an emotion, however it drives your feelings, affects relations, and your self-worth You try to simultaneous fit in and stand out You are often unaware of social comparison Social comparison can happen both up and downward, usually leading to fear, anger, shame, and or sadness Comparing is often a creativity killer…… Continue reading You compare